I chatted with a writer friend a few months ago, and she was like “I couldn’t date another writer. Too many neuroses” in the kitchen was her reasoning, basically. I don’t know if I disagree.
I think two writers can make it work IF they are both working on becoming the most emotionally mature, stable versions of themselves. Two tortured artists or two perfectionist writers who smart at the first sign of criticism or offer feedback tinged with envy or jealousy…yeah, that’s not gonna work out.
My boyfriend has some interests in specific kinds of writing, but he’s mostly into other forms of art like drawing and filmmaking. It works well for us. He’s creative enough to understand my passions (and I can support his) without being so steeped in my world, while I also can nurture his passions. I have writers groups and other people I can turn to if I want in-depth feedback on my writing.
"These aren’t just exceptions to the rule but evidence that love and literature don’t have to compete. I'm starting to see that the right collaborator doesn’t eclipse your voice. They help you hear it more clearly."
I love this! I'm not dating (lol) but i love having my writer friends read my work and provide their insights. Literature is a love language in of itself and I think I'm just lucky enough my friends that also write aren't the type to compare or anything. But it's such a gift to be able to have someone understands you and your work, since essentially, your work has parts of you anyway. Especially when they remind you to KEEP yourself in your work and not out of it for external reasons 🥹🥹
I really loved reading this. I get caught up in stereotypes way too often when it comes to dating. It opened my eyes to this flaw of mine. I'm only twenty-two, and I know I have much to learn, but there are times when I get caught up easily and believe I have everything figured out. Sometimes I need someone to open my eyes to what I'm doing wrong, so thank you for being that person.
It's interesting learning that there are successful relationships where each partner is a writer. I always hear so much negativity when it comes to dating someone in the same field as you. It was pleasant hearing something new for a change. Also, it isn't that I thought there were no writer-writer relationships that lasted, I just thought that they were rare. A one a one-in-a-million kind of deal.
It's refreshing to hear another writer talk about this subject. I feel like there's not enough discourse and so many of us believe that writer-writer relationships absolutely can not work.
Excelent piece. Writing is not a competition. It's more about sharing. Letting the intimacy you share with someone else drip into your writing will always help reveal yourself a little more, and that's a good thing.
I chatted with a writer friend a few months ago, and she was like “I couldn’t date another writer. Too many neuroses” in the kitchen was her reasoning, basically. I don’t know if I disagree.
I think two writers can make it work IF they are both working on becoming the most emotionally mature, stable versions of themselves. Two tortured artists or two perfectionist writers who smart at the first sign of criticism or offer feedback tinged with envy or jealousy…yeah, that’s not gonna work out.
My boyfriend has some interests in specific kinds of writing, but he’s mostly into other forms of art like drawing and filmmaking. It works well for us. He’s creative enough to understand my passions (and I can support his) without being so steeped in my world, while I also can nurture his passions. I have writers groups and other people I can turn to if I want in-depth feedback on my writing.
That's really fair enough! Sounds like you two have a lovely thing going 🩷
Really enjoyed reading this—it kept me hooked the whole way. Thanks for sharing!🌻
Really enjoyed this! Thank you<3
Good to know...good to know...watch out future bf
"These aren’t just exceptions to the rule but evidence that love and literature don’t have to compete. I'm starting to see that the right collaborator doesn’t eclipse your voice. They help you hear it more clearly."
I love this! I'm not dating (lol) but i love having my writer friends read my work and provide their insights. Literature is a love language in of itself and I think I'm just lucky enough my friends that also write aren't the type to compare or anything. But it's such a gift to be able to have someone understands you and your work, since essentially, your work has parts of you anyway. Especially when they remind you to KEEP yourself in your work and not out of it for external reasons 🥹🥹
I really loved reading this. I get caught up in stereotypes way too often when it comes to dating. It opened my eyes to this flaw of mine. I'm only twenty-two, and I know I have much to learn, but there are times when I get caught up easily and believe I have everything figured out. Sometimes I need someone to open my eyes to what I'm doing wrong, so thank you for being that person.
It's interesting learning that there are successful relationships where each partner is a writer. I always hear so much negativity when it comes to dating someone in the same field as you. It was pleasant hearing something new for a change. Also, it isn't that I thought there were no writer-writer relationships that lasted, I just thought that they were rare. A one a one-in-a-million kind of deal.
It's refreshing to hear another writer talk about this subject. I feel like there's not enough discourse and so many of us believe that writer-writer relationships absolutely can not work.
Thanks again!
Excelent piece. Writing is not a competition. It's more about sharing. Letting the intimacy you share with someone else drip into your writing will always help reveal yourself a little more, and that's a good thing.
What a fantastic read, I learned so much and it changed my perspective, thank you 🎀💕
Thank you so much for reading, Star! I really appreciate you for leaving a comment! 💕
this was such an intriguing read to start my wednesday!
You’re so kind Anna!!! Honoured to be your morning read 🙆🏾♀️🩷 Thanks for the kind words :)
wow didn’t expect to learn so much from this piece